Over the Valentine’s Day weekend, I have seen the new Fifty Shades of Grey movie advertised by many of my Facebook friends. Some proudly state that they are either going to see it or are watching the movie, while others (thankfully), are protesting it due to the perverted nature of its content. I am very disappointed in those who are going to see such a disgusting form of entertainment. Since this movie is popular right now, I thought I would talk about what God says about movies such as Fifty Shades of Grey, and the people who flock to the theaters to watch them.
First of all, I have never read the Fifty Shades of Grey book nor seen the movie. I first heard about the book from co-workers of mine who were talking about its content. They told me some of what was in it, and from what I heard, the book promotes lustful thinking and perversion. Also, from what I’ve gathered from the movie reviews, both the book and the movie centers around illicit sexual practices between a man and a woman who are not married. This in itself makes both the book and the movie unfit to watch. Add to the mix that the book at least has the reputation of describing in very great detail perverted forms of sexual activity that only a sick pervert would enjoy performing or reading about. Once I heard about the movie which was released this past Friday, I went to IMDB.com to see the Parental guide which features all of the negative portions of the film that parents should be aware of.
According to IMDB (International Movie Data Base), Fifty Shades of Grey features plenty of scenes which contain full nudity of the male and female characters from the back and some nudity of both parties from the front as well. The film also features perverted practices of binding the hands and feet of the female character during sexual activity as well as a man “whipping” her with a riding crop, which is used for horses. Not only is this film demeaning to women, but it is also demeaning to God. How this book and movie is talked about by so many women is beyond me, especially since it shows a woman basically being sexually abused. Whether or not the sexual encounter is consensual by both parties in the film, the fact that the characters are unmarried and partaking in sexual activity that would not be pleasurable to a NORMAL-thinking person, makes this movie unwatchable.
I have heard many women during my therapy practice complain about how their husbands’ obsessions with pornographic magazines or movies almost ruined their marriages. It sounds to me, that as explicit as the Fifty Shades of Grey book is reported to be, that more women should focus on how they are obsessed with pornography as well. Pornography does not have to be a picture in a raunchy magazine or X-rated movie. Pornography is anything that describes a sexual act in minute detail as to excite lust in a person. For some reason, some women believe that reading X-rated dirt in a book is better than watching it in a film. I have news for these women! ANY WOMAN WHO READS FIFTY SHADES OF GREY IS JUST AS MUCH OF A PERVERT AS A MAN (OR WOMAN) WHO WATCHES ANY X RATED MOVIE!! I heard some women talk about reading the book during work, and even reading the book at their house while their children were in the house. Would these women watch an X rated movie at work or in the presence of their children? I would hope not!
Also, some women think that since the Fifty Shades of Grey film is only rated “R” rather than “X” then the film must not be so bad to watch. I have news for these people, no matter how much or little nudity a movie shows (and this movie shows a lot), and no matter how much or little sexual activity is shown (and this movie shows a lot), anything in the film that incites lust or sexual excitement in the viewer is a sin to watch. God says in Philippians 4:8, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” We, as Christians, should not pollute our minds with sinful thoughts. This film is just one of many out there that has inappropriate content that a Christian should not expose themselves to. Likewise, other Christians should not approve of their friends watching this film or reading the book. I have noticed on my Facebook News Feed where fellow Christians have “liked” the statuses of others who say they are watching (or going to watch) Fifty Shades of Grey. Christians are supposed to be examples to others (especially other Christians) of how God wants us to behave. “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven”(Matthew 5:16).
Also, since the Fifty Shades of Grey film glorifies sexual assault of women, I wonder if some men who see or hear about the movie’s content will be influenced to assault other women as well. I know from my experience as a therapist, how traumatic sexual assault was on many of my female clients. It is definitely not something the media needs to glorify in a film. If society continues to be as accepting of sexual abuse in media form as it is now, it highly concerns me to think about what will be in the movie theaters when my daughter is my age! No matter whether the sexual content in this movie is consensual or not, the bizarre acts in this film are abusive in nature and should not be done even in a married couple’s bedroom because they are designed to inflict pain rather than show benevolence and love between two people. “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3).
Lastly, would all of these women who gleefully post on Facebook that they are going to see Fifty Shades of Grey go see it if Jesus was sitting beside them? Also, would those who see these posts on their Facebook News Feed click “like” or make an approving comment to these posts if Jesus was sitting beside them? We should always guard our influence and not encourage others to sin. I hope that this article encourages my fellow women to stand up against the sin that is Fifty Shades of Grey and stand up for God instead!