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How Do You Handle Constructive                                         Criticism?

5/28/2022

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           Everyone has different opinions about how things should be in this world, and how others should think, feel, and act. That is why I would say that every adult living today has faced some criticism at some point in his or her life. Some of this criticism may have no basis in truth, and therefore, we should not internalize it because the criticism given is only meant to hurt us. The Bible speaks against those who wrongfully criticize others, “Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers” (Ephesians 4:29).
       However, there is such a thing as “constructive criticism” which is designed to help a person grow rather than hurt you. Constructive criticism is given to a person who is doing wrong in an attempt to help that person see the error of his/her way and grow.  Christians may see fellow Christians doing something wrong in the Sight of God, and try to teach that person better.  It might also be given to someone who is doing right, but who could do even better.   We are commanded to help one another grow spiritually, and that can sometimes involve giving one another constructive criticism. “Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.” (Luke 17:3). “This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith;” (Titus 1:13).
          Have you ever received constructive criticism from a fellow Christian? That person may have seen something that you were doing which was spiritually wrong, and you may have thought you were doing the right thing. How did you handle the criticism? We are to receive constructive criticism, and apply it to our learning and spiritual growth, even though we might perceive it as hurtful at first. “Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.” (Hebrews 12:11).

There are 3 ways that most people handle constructive criticism. See if you know someone who falls into one of these categories:
  1. Do Nothing: These types of people will receive the constructive criticism but do nothing about it. They will not allow the criticism to penetrate their hearts and therefore they will not feel the need to change. These people will not show anger or “lash out” at the one giving the constructive criticism, but merely act as if that person said nothing. We see an example of this in Acts 17:22-32 where the apostle Paul saw some people in Athens worshipping at an alter made for an idol named “the Unknown God” (v. 23). When Paul sees this, he teaches the people about the True God, and tells them that their beliefs are merely superstitions (v. 22-31).
      When the Athenians heard Paul’s sermon, did they get mad at him and throw him out of the city or try to  kill him? No. They acted as if they were fine with what he said and even offered to hear him again sometime  (v. 32). They appeared unfazed by his words, and therefore did not allow the Truth to  penetrate their hearts and motivate them to change.
  1. Retaliate: These types of people do allow the constructive criticism to penetrate their hearts, and they feel pain from knowing that they are doing wrong or they simply get mad, because their “pet sins” have been exposed. However, instead of allowing this realization to spur them to change for the better, they “lash out” at the person trying to help them and attempt to hurt them emotionally with their words and actions.  Sometimes, they may even resort to physical violence.  This way, the person needing the correction can focus on “getting even” with the other person rather than taking the time to grow spiritually themselves.
       We see an extreme case of this in Acts Chapter 7 when Stephen confronts the Jews in the synagogue for their unbelief in Jesus. He rebukes them by saying “Ye stiffnecked and uncircumcised in heart and ears, ye do always resist the Holy Ghost: as your fathers did, so do ye.”(v.51). Instead of feeling the sting of  Stephen’s  rebuke and converting to Christianity, the Jews in Acts 7 felt their hearts pricked by the Truth, but decided to become angry at the messenger, Stephen. They retaliated against Stephen by taking him   outside of the city and stoning him to death (v.59-60).
  1. Be Humble and Change: When we humble ourselves and accept the fact that we are not always right all of the time, then we will be more willing to accept constructive criticism from those who honestly have our best interest at heart. God wants us to do this in order to grow spiritually stronger and gain wisdom. “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.” (Proverbs 12:15).
        In Acts chapter 2, the apostle Peter had just preached the very first sermon in the first worship service of  the church of Christ on the first day of Pentecost after the Resurrection of Christ, in the first century, A.D.     
       Instead of becoming angry with the messenger, many people who heard the preaching of the Gospel were pricked in their hearts, and asked Peter what they needed to do to be saved (v. 37).  Unlike those who stoned Stephen, who were said to be “cut to the heart” (Acts 7:54), and then proceeded to gnash on him with their teeth and stone him, these people of Acts 2 were cut or pricked to the heart, and responded  appropriately by asking what to do to be saved.  Peter replied with the following: “Repent and be baptized  every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost” (v.38).
       These people had humbled themselves and allowed themselves to hear Peter’s message from God which meant  that they were spiritually wrong. They “that gladly received his word were baptized,” and 3,000 souls were        baptized that day (v. 41). Consider how many souls would be saved today and how many faithful Christians  there would be if everyone was as open to the Truth as these people!
       To grow spiritually, we have to be open to constructive criticism, even though it may not feel good to us in the beginning. We do not always see the error of our ways, and we can learn from the wisdom of others, “A reproof entereth more into a wise man than an hundred stripes into a fool.” (Proverbs 17:10). We can also learn from daily Bible reading: “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:” (I Timothy 3:16, Psalm 1:2, II Timothy 2:15).
        Likewise, if we are the ones giving constructive criticism to an erring brother or sister in Christ, we should be mindful of the 3 reactions we may get in return and prepare ourselves to handle them accordingly.  Remember, too, that sometimes constructive criticism is given to those who are doing right, but who could do even better.  If we can focus on being the best Christians we can be, and help others do the same, then we all can spend an eternity in Heaven together!



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